My peedie brother can be quite a little philosopher!
When up in Orkney myself and DB took him out for the morning out of the middle of the wedding preparation action. While waiting for DB to come out of the public conveniences at the Pierhead in Stromness (they're very pretty - just down by the harbour...and we all have to use them at some point!) he stood there with a pondering look on his face and we had the following conversation.
David (with a very serious exprression on his face): You really love Derek don't you? Me: Yes David: If he had to go away for a long time you'd really miss him wouldn't you? Me: I would. I loved somebody before who didn't love me back in the same way and that wasn't nice. It's important to find someone who will love you back. David: Yes it is because if you love someone and they don't love you back then you go to cuddle them and they don't cuddle back and that is a very big problem. Yes, that is a very big problem indeed (followed up with much nodding of his head as he considered just how big a problem this was...)
To say I was a little bit stunned at the deep thinking was an understatement. Having been in the situation (as has my DB) of being in long-term relationships with folk who did just that, pushing you away when you went for a hug, I would have to say he got it spot on. When you're the sort of individual who needs physical contact and affection in order to flourish and feel loved then it's amazing how it can deplete you and hurt you to be pushed away. It's why I don't take for granted what I've got now.
This last year I've found out what it's like to be with someone that places the same importance on physical touch and affection as I do. I can fall asleep on his shoulder and waken up still hugging and being hugged back. It makes me sappy as hell but I don't care. After 10 years with one, and 5 years with another one, that seemed to think it was a weakness to show any affection whatsoever then I want as much as I can get now. If I'm lucky enough to have found someone who loves me back and wants me to just be me (and that amazes and interests them) then I'm not going to tell them "go away, this is good!" I'm keeping them as close as they want to be and enjoy them being whoever it is that they want to be now and in the future. I'm going to make the most of being with my DB.
...and it makes life so much simpler now when I try to get nice pics of me in my FO's. I think he has potential as he has an interesting eye for a picture. Some of the finer techniques may need a bit of tightening up but he likes finding ways to make me look good so I am definitely not going to complain about that now am I?!
Here are a couple of examples.
This is Currer, a Norah Gaughan cardi from one of her Berroco booklets.
And then we have a little minicardi from the Noro book "Designer Mini Knits" by Jenny Watson. I'm not really a Noro fan (terrible I know - find the stuff too scratchy, don't really like the colours, the whole thing just passes me by!) so I made this in Lang Yarns Mille Colori which I do have a bit of an addiction for.
And then these are a couple of photos I took the other day that I just liked...
Who would've thought that clothes pegs could actually be quite interesting?
What is your least favorite thing about my knitting? Haven't got one - I love your knitting.
What is something I have knitted that you recall as being good? Castellated kilt hose (nothing to do with them being for you obviously!)
Do you think knitters have an expensive hobby?Oh no, I think it's very good value for money!
What are your hobbies?Fishing and you.
So, if we compared money/time spent on hobbies, who would win?You would always win any competition
Do you have a stash of any kind? Flyfishing and fly tying stuff.
Has my knitting in public ever embarrassed you? No.
Can you name another knitting blog? Probably
Do you mind that I want to check out wool shops everywhere we go?No, it's very nice. Do you know what my favourite type of yarn is? North Ronaldsay? (It's one of them - Handmaiden Sea Silk is one of the others and Malabrigo if I can get hold of it...and maybe some Lang Mille Colori...the list goes on)
Do you understand the importance of a swatch? If you say you want one, you have to have one?
Do you read my blog? Don't know how to. (I'll show you)
Have you ever left a comment? Don't know how to. (I'll show you)
Do you think the house would be cleaner if I didn't knit? No, you'd have something wrong with you if you weren't knitting so you wouldn't tidy either. (Woo hoo - no housework required over and above what is necessary to keep a reasonable level of hygiene...I love you ;-x)
Is there anything else you want to say?When are you going to knit those long stockings with the lacey tops? (Patience is a virtue my sweet)